The Touch-Starved Era: Are Escorts The New Therapists?

 

Everyone can see that we are all affected by social media in many different ways. But, social media is not the only thing that lead to most people being touch-starved. There are many things that lead to this, and it’s important to discuss the elements that are influencing how humans are now feeling towards affection. This article gets into how NYC escorts became the new therapists, and the reasons why this seems to be happening.

The Effects of The Pandemic

Besides the effects of the illness itself, the fact that people had to stay inside of their houses for so long had some side-effects. The National Institute of Mental Health talks of how many people are have experienced, or still experiencing, anxiety and depression, as a result of the pandemic. Many people found an escape in going to work, going out, or hanging out with friends at the park; the pandemic stopped people from relaxing. The house changed from being just the home, to being the work place, the relaxing place, and everything else in between. For many people, it quickly started feeling like they were trapped.

The stress resulted from the social isolation, combined with the fear of COVID, created a monster that is anxiety, or even depression. Many people lost loved ones throughout this period, which only made things harder. The isolation, the loneliness, the fear; everything just made people take the path towards feeling disconnected from others, and even with themselves. These effects of the pandemic can be still seen today, and it will probably take a few years to go back to normal (if that will even happen at all). It seems like that fear stained people’s minds, and it’s not easy to wash it off.

About Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is when you are fearful that you will be judged by others. Therefore, this could feel like fear of talking to strangers, or just going out in general. And, if you are going out, you might start shaking, sweating, or blushing. Social anxiety manifests itself different with each person; also depending on how deep the problem is. The fear of embarrassment, or of being judged, stops people from interacting with others. More and more people refuse to just go out and talk to people they don’t know. Because of this, it’s becoming hard to make new friends; and therefore, impossible to find an intimate partner.

In almost every city in the world, but especially big ones, like NYC, people are just distant. They don’t answer if you ask them a question, and you cannot find almost anyone to help you with something. Everyone is for themselves; no one wants to interact with others anymore. This leads to only knowing your family, or people that you’ve known for years. And while long-lasting connection are a need, new ones are too! So, a lot of the people that are in need for affection, just prefer to go to NYC escorts, than try to meet someone new.

The Toxic Work Culture

Most people are drowning in work; the work-life balance is unbalanced for most people. You should do an exercise, where you ask the people around you what hobbies do they have. Maybe to your surprise, you will see that many people don’t have hobbies anymore. Because of the lack of time, and always feeling tired because of work; relaxing time and hobbies became a luxury that not many people have. The competitiveness in most office, and the lack of transparency and communication between the employee and employer, will makes this problem worse. Now, as you already know, all of this leads to the lack of affection.

Everyone is always tired, and no one wants to make any effort into helping the other person. Or, if you don’t have a partner already, you will always think about all of the time you will lose if you try to find someone. And, this is exactly why a lot of people rather pay escorts to help them with this problem. It’s easy, and it doesn’t require a lot of time and effort. You can pay someone to be your companion for the evening or the night; and you can enjoy your time without feeling any stress.

Are Escorts Sex Workers or Therapists?

You would be surprised to find out that a lot of the people that hire an escort don’t want any sex. Because of the three main elements that were explained in this article, there is a mass lack of affection. The male loneliness epidemic seems to become more and more of a problem every day; and affection might be just the cure for it. But, as already mentioned, many men don’t want to put the effort, the time, and the needed feelings that they need to put down, in order to find someone the organic way.

Dating apps have taken over the dating world, and everyone just sends texts and pictures back and forth. Because of the elements mentioned, and some other things too, something happened, and people started disconnecting. For most of us, other people are just some colors, or some letters on a screen. Even if you know how someone looks or sounds, you cannot connect with them as you would do with a person you meet in real life. The importance of real-life conversations is being diminished; but the lack of it has clear side effects.

Conclusion

If you are living in NYC, you probably already know how cold-hearted people are. No wonder why they end up paying for affection, rather than searching for it in an organic way. Acknowledging the problem might help with fixing it. Topics like this shouldn’t be taboo, and they should be discussed more often if we want to fix the problem. The effects of the pandemic, social anxiety, and the toxic work culture are only a few of the things that led us here. Shame and anxiety will only lead us further down the path. We must change!